The difference between ‘I knew it!’ said with regret or with joy could be explained by whether or not you took action.
What drives our actions? Many things. Emotions, like fear, or love, reasons, like commitment. Whatever the driver may be, it carries a seed of knowledge of a most likely outcome. We are not right all the time, but, enough times to start noticing a pattern. Call it intuition, hunch, vision. Sometimes, we take chances when we rationalize, and think the odds are in our favor. Sometimes, we get stuck, and can’t act, even when we think we should.
Lack of action is still action. Inaction sounds like a combination of two words: “invisible” and “action”. The reason for inaction could be lack of information, to make a compelling case. Unfortunately, there are situations, where a compelling case represents the harsh reality. Examples are loss of health, or a loss in one’s professional life, or of business opportunities. The lost opportunity could have been avoided with actions taken preemptively. In that case, we say, “I knew it”, with regret.
Action for the sake of action is not a foolproof strategy. If action is taken against the prior knowledge of a negative outcome, the result is often negative. In that case, we also say, “I knew it”, with regret. To illustrate the point, I often use a power outlet analogy. No matter how optimistic the outlook we may psych ourselves up to be, every time we touch the exposed wires, it gives us a jolt!
Through live coaching, actions, or lack of thereof, are carefully examined for certain reasons. The reasons, in turn, are carefully examined, in order to understand what they represent in the client’s life. Acting out of a deeper meaning, or a purpose, is more desirable. For some, this will mean a slight change, while, for others, a longer journey, to establish new habits. Personally, I had to work hard with my coaches, to bring my actions in line with what my values and beliefs are. I had to do a lot of thinking and soul searching, before a vision of a new me would emerge. It was like putting a puzzle together. Once that happened, I knew what to do.
The true gift of being coached is the fact that now I have an awareness of what I am doing, and why. I am aware of what needs to be done, and why, and it is my responsibility to act. If I delay, I am now better at catching myself, and can come up with a good strategy to move things forward, or to take another moment to think, and not to pursue a certain path.
Old habits die hard, and change does not come easy. With the help of a life coach, we can train our way of thinking, and the emotional responses, to keep us on the straight and narrow. We can learn to a see a larger picture, and how not get caught in the moment.
“I knew it”, said with joy, is a goal of life coaching, along with other attributes of what you consider to be a magnificent life. It is never too late to start working toward your goals, at your own pace. With life coaching, there are no hard deadlines (compare that to the Olympics), while some flexibility is encouraged.